Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Discipline is hard!

In the last few months we have had to start thinking about discipline. It really started when Lil was 10 or 11 months old I want to say (can't quite remember). She was messing with an electrical outlet cover (not to worry they ARE covered!) and I repeatedly said "no" sternly and redirected her. Yet time and time again she went back, smiled, and looked at me, waiting. That was our first experience with spanking. And she has not messed with the outlets since then. I wanted to make sure that on our first real time of testing I made an impression AND that outlets are a big no-no.

At Lil's age "time out" seems pointless because unless she's in a crib, I can't make her stay some place secluded, and she doesn't understand. Plus, I don't ever want her crib to be a bad place, so I hope to avoid using it for time out. (I know people differ on this stance. No judgment.) For discipline, we really need an immediate consequence. This may be a spank on the hand or bottom. Sometimes it just takes saying "no" and redirecting. Other times it's removing her from the situation. I don't always see immediate results, like I did with the outlets. But I hear consistency is key, so I am praying that by being consistent, she will learn.

Most recently Lilleigh has decided to lean over her high chair tray and shovel the food around with arms, flinging it off the sides of the tray onto the floor. And she's been spitting milk and yogurt out of her mouth. Lovely. Admittedly, I had to hold back laughter when she spit out the milk. It was truly hilarious - how do you not laugh?? But the throwing food on the floor was not okay. I told her "no" sternly, which did nothing but make her laugh. And the hand spank, again made her laugh. That's when I took her out of her high chair, pulled down her diaper, to spank her bottom. That sent the message. She has only gotten a bottom spanking a handful of times, but this was one of them. Still I worry about her getting hungry from not eating enough.

Last night we had a similar scenario and she was removed from her high chair. She didn't act hungry when I tried to feed her again, but she woke up three times last night! Brendon went in each time to put her back to bed. Since I am still nursing, I didn't want her to get any ideas. I am guessing she was hungry since she wouldn't eat. We are working on figuring this issue out.

So today I have been struggling with being worn out on the discipline front. I found a few verses that are sweet reminders of why discipline is so vital.

So we must not grow weary in doing good, for in due time we will reap, if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9)
What a great reminder that when I am weary, I am told we will reap the blessings of perseverance!
For the Lord disciplines those he loves, just as a father disciplines the son in whom he delights. (Proverbs 3:12) 
 Oh how I do delight in Lilleigh! What all the more reason to continue on in discipline. We discipline out of love!
The one who spares his rod hates his child, but the one who loves his child is diligent in discipling him. (Proverbs 13:24)
Diligence is key!

And reading John 15 today, I am reminded that it is only when I abide in Christ that I can bear any fruit at all. Oh how thankful I am to have the Lord to walk this path with me!

Monday, April 16, 2012

14 Months!

By this time, Lilleigh is really 14-1/2 months, but oh well!

Lilleigh at 14 months...
  • Says A LOT of words. Right around 13 months she had a vocab spurt. I kept expecting a spurt and then plateau, but that really hasn't happened. It seems that everyday she says more and more. Her words include: Dada, more, milk, Mom, Mama, Mammy (Sammy), ball (which she says in the grocery store around oranges and lemons etc. SO funny!), dog, woof woof (both for a dog's sound and her favorite lovey), meow, moo, down, up, no (oh, that's a fun one!), peas (please), da-du (thank you), bow (she says after she's dressed because naturally it's time to pick our a hair bow. that's my girl!), yeesh (for shoe... she has the "sh" at least), nana (banana), and I'm sure lots of others I can't think of. She also has a word for wagon but I can't remember how she says it. I so love learning her language! And it makes me happy that we can communicate! We are still doing baby sign language some, but I've kinda stopped it since we can communicate most things now.
  • Walks! Yea! This is a super helpful skill. She's working on her balance though, so although helpful, we walk very slowly in public. :)
  • Likes to put her shoes on and take them off. And she loves putting on Mom and Dad's shoes also!
  • Has 8 teeth + her 2 bottom molars + 1 or 2 teeth breaking through on bottom (her fangs)
  • Loves bananas and eat them like they are going out of style. Today she had 1-1/2, and that was me limiting her. I cut her off.
  • Takes one 1-1/2 hour nap a day. She's wearing Momma out!!! The other day I got lucky and she took a 4 hour nap!!!!! It was amazing. Unfortunately, that was a total fluke. If we could find a good middle ground, that'd be awesome. But meanwhile, I'm learning to survive on an hour and a half. And Lilleigh is learning that sometimes Mom has to get some chores done while she's awake, so she needs to entertain herself. That doesn't always go over well, but that's okay. She'll get there!
  • Loves going up and down steps. As her Grammy put it, Lilleigh is "focused." I do think that's an accurate depiction of her personality. Whether it's steps or getting the shape in the slot of her toy, she gets very focused on the task at hand and is not easily redirected. She's done this a lot recently with steps and has wanted to go up and down, up and down. Fortunately when we were in Houston, Grammy showed her how to slide down the stairs on her bottom. Then this past weekend we were at a friends house, whose living room dips down by a step. Lilleigh kept wandering over to the step to go up and down. At first I held her hand because I was afraid she'd fall, but after a bit I watched from afar. And what a proud momma I was to see that when I wasn't there, she sat on her bottom and slid down that step! Thanks, Grammy, for that lesson!
We are working on discipline. Sometimes this means a rebuke or spanking. But other times, it means I just need to correct, warn, or redirect her. And I am learning that this also means encouraging and teaching her. Discipline isn't all negative! In fact, I've heard many varsity moms say recently that 90% of discipline is not about punishment but about guiding, encouraging, and teaching. I find I am great at encouraging her (Encouraging is a strong suit), but teaching is harder. Not sure if it's the age or just that I'm not in the habit of doing it. But I am working on it! I've been reading Shepherding a Child's Heart, which has been a helpful read for this arena.

I think I told y'all we got this awesome kitchen set for Lilleigh for $15! What a deal! And this past weekend, I got a side rail for when Lilleigh moves to her big girl bed (which won't be for awhile!) for only $2!! I love garage sales!

Lilleigh and Aunt Anabelle

Driving back to Dallas from Houston

Saturday, April 14, 2012

He is risen!

I am late in posting Easter photos, but alas here they are! We had a wonderful time visiting family in Houston!